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Committing yourself to one person for the rest of your life is huge and being married takes a lot of effort.

Like almost everything, communication is the key and as long as you keep talking to each other any problems can and will be overcome.

Once you have chosen your life partner you must stick together through thick and thin, get to know each others’ weaknesses and celebrate your strengths. Try and do things together, find out what interests you both and take time out to relax in each others’ company.

Having external interests can also be beneficial; it would be very unhealthy just to do everything together. If you can get a good balance it can keep a relationship interesting as well as strong. Compromise will have to happen so it is detrimental to be stubborn and not give way sometimes to the needs of your partner.

Make the time to talk and do not let worries fester, as they will just eat away at things and your relationship will quickly fall apart. In life, there is always something going down and just so in a marriage, from the children to business matters and financial affairs nothing is ever going to be easy. A marriage is something that must be nurtured and looked after.

There are very many reasons why a couple chooses to go there separate ways and no-one takes breaking up as an easy option. However there are counselors trained to help couples through their problems and sometimes an outside party can be a big help for both parties.

Why do we have relationships in the first place? Some relationships bring us happiness and companionship.

Other relationships bring us material benefits. Ultimately, relationships are meant to be rewarding.

However, there are times when relationships get in the way of other relationships, work and time alone. Any time spent on one relationship takes your time away from another relationship.

Some days, loneliness sets in. Other days, the phone seems to ring off the hook. What do you do when your relationships feel unmanageable?

What’s the most important thing in life?

How do we know which relationships have a greater priority over others? In the 21st century, many women are torn between their relationship with their children and their relationship with their bosses.

Many mothers and fathers feel that they must work out of necessity, but no guilt is worse than the guilt of having neglected a developing child.

Ranking your priorities

Though children and finances should always be top priorities, other priorities are difficult to rank. If enough money is being brought into the household, should the father really take that promotion that will take him far away from the home?

Should your friend, who is in the middle of a breakup, take priority over your other friends? What if all of your friends are going through breakups?

Other “obligations”

How many relationships do you have? Do you have a spouse? Do you have children? Do you have parents? Relatives? Friends? Acquaintances? A best friend? Clients? Let’s say you only have friends? Let’s say you have dozens of friends who are always calling and wanting to hang out? What do you do?

Reciprocity in Relationships

Any time you give to one relationship is time taken away from another relationship. Barring your relationship with your children, every relationship should have some type of mutual benefit.

If your friend is not willing to give the same attention and empathy as you to the relationship, this friend does not deserve as much of your time as a friend who shows a willingness to listen to you and understand the real you. Of course, if you expect this out of a relationship, you should also give the same back.

Be open about your feelings and your business

If you feel bogged down, let it be known. At the very least, you will see which of your friends are takers.

For many of your less self-centered friends, you will do them a favor by clarifying that you are not avoiding them but simply really short on time. Unless blinded by ego, your friends should understand that you cannot only be so many places at once.

Learn to say no

This is the most difficult step to follow for most people. None of us like to see the look of disappointment that stretches across a friend’s face. Even at a young age, we’ve always had a desire to please others. For this reason, we must practice saying it all the more.

The no word is a tricky one. Say it too much and you come across as incompetent and selfish. When saying the no word, remember that you are not saying no to the relationship or the other partner’s happiness. You are saying no to stress and exhaustion. You are saying yes to happiness and free time.

As you exercise, be it a brisk walk or a more serious gym work-out, endorphins are released and you start to feel good about yourself.

If you suffer from anxiety, and a lot of people do, then starting to do something more active could have real benefits.

Make a conscious effort to look on the positive side rather than thinking the worse of people and situations.

It is surprising how much a person’s negativity can be seen in their manner and behavior patterns. Other people will respond to your more upbeat outlook.

A well balanced and healthy diet including drinking lots of water will ensure a healthy glow, good skin and avoid the build up of bad waste products.

Avoid alcohol, tea and coffee, reduce sugar intake and cut down on the processed food that you consume. Being healthy on the inside is a good start to feeling more positive mentally.

Interrupted sleep patterns can create a cycle of tiredness and fatigue that can start to affect every part of our lives. Getting a good night’s sleep can sometimes be easy said than done.

Relaxation techniques can help, or try reading as this often helps you to drift off. Increasing exercise levels will make you feel physically exhausted so this will induce a deeper form of sleep.

Ensure that you are getting enough vitamins and if unsure consult your doctor or pharmacist. Changes may not happen overnight but it won’t be long before you start to notice a difference, others will notice it too and will be quick to let you know.

Today might feel unmanageable. This might be the day where all the projects and assignments seem to pile up.

You might look at this day with disdain and think about yesterday when you were unable to finish your work.

In fact, the reason why you’re so backlogged today is because of yesterday. Yesterday, all you could think about was the number of hoops you were supposed to jump through and the very thought of that paralyzed you with fear.

How can you make today go more smoothly than yesterday?

Do you have to do anything?

What are your deadlines? Do you absolutely have to finish your project today? Can you ask for an extension?

Are you so committed to finishing the project today because you want to impress your boss or client? Why not cut your workload in half and take the rest of the day off? Ask these questions before obsessing over a deadline.

Faster work = More Play

If you do get your work done, want to see a movie? Imagine relaxing and doing nothing. Keep in mind that the sooner you get your work done, the sooner you can go home.

Visualize

Before you even start your day, visualize your day. Think of your schedule and estimate the times at which you will finish your tasks. Imagine yourself completing these tasks.

Brainstorm

Instead of jumping into a task and hoping to get inspiration, try coming up with a lot of your ideas before you even get started. For each job that requires innovation or creativity, take advantage of the extra energy that you have after a night’s rest.

Outline – set milestones

Once you have brainstormed, create a mental outline. Have an idea of everything you plan on doing throughout the day. Set milestones at which you can feel proud and accomplished for finishing your work.

Break work into manageable chunks

Instead of seeing the project in its entirety, break your project up into steps that you can finish in under an hour.

Every hour, do not worry about whether or not you will finish the entire project as a whole. Instead, focus on whether or not you will finish the task of the hour. This makes a project seem far less overwhelming.

Do not get sidetracked

If you feel tempted to stray to Youtube, resist that temptation. Save fun diversions for your break time. Whenever you distract yourself, you break your flow of concentration.

Then, you will have to reestablish concentration. Each time you have to regain focus you will lose time. As you get behind, you will sabotage yourself by focusing on the fact that you are not done instead of focusing on getting done.

Take breaks – reward yourself

Tasks are much sweeter when you know that you get a nice cherry on the top. Plus, if you commit to holding off pleasurable activities until you finish your job, you will work faster.

Make work more fun

If possible, take tasks on that you enjoy over tasks that you don’t. Keep your office or home as pleasurable as possible without adding distractions. Music really helps stimulate your mind and increase pleasure as long as the music is not distracting. Find music that is soothing.

Once you start thinking in a more positive manner, happiness will naturally follow.

Sharing sadness does not lessen our feelings but spreading happiness is infectious.

If someone you know is feeling down, your upbeat attitude won’t make them feel worse, it will definitely lift their spirits.

The other thing to consider is that when you are feeling unhappy everything is a chore.

Letting bad things that happen in the world distract you, makes you restless, it seems like you never get anything done. It is human nature to be happy we contain the essence of joy in its purest form.

Henry Ford famously said “If you think you can or if you think you can’t, either way you’re right”. Fundamentally, it is our own thinking that can be the stumbling block to leading happy fulfilled lives.

We were born with the right to feel happy and everyone deserves happiness, it is not something that we have to earn.

Ultimately, being positive will not make the world an idyllic place to live in but it will make a difference to someone, somewhere. Decide what you value the most in life and what it is that means more to you than anything else. Try to experience those feelings by contributing to others, embrace them.

It was once said that “….The greatest lie in our culture is the one that says you are broken, incomplete and need something outside to give you happiness”. This is simply not true; it is okay to be happy.